TOPIC: How many times a week do you have sex?

To all, some of us who are married with children notice a change in our wives' libido in our journey toward happiness. I have been in the place of which you all speak, even you sizemic, but less(much less). Anyway, I speculate that our wives, being without kids, focused mostly on themselves and us prior to having kids(in the traditional order of relationship-kids). I also believe that once kids came along, the repressed childhood fantasies of being a good mom and wife encompassed the forefront of their minds. Well, when she had, already played out her fantasy role of wife (unless she abstained) it was difficult to balance the new role of mom, which resulted in all the attention swaying towards the child(ren) instead of herself and ultimately you. She then may have lost herself in her chosen obligation and lost a sense of selfworth. Her boobs, belly, hips, hormones, and other womanly things, have changed and she notices that she doesn't have that same libido also and she blames herself and not the fact that she had a beautiful yet parasitic human being to come out of her body. Our wives have, or had, to find themselves again but with our help. If you haven't already, started showing her how much you appreciate, admire, love what she's doing with whatever she does without expecting anything in return. It's hard (pun intended) to do something nice for her and not expect a sexual response but most moms (assumption) get turned on when you ignore them sexually(don't be stupid and turn it down though that's not what I'm saying lol). Weird I know, but try it if you're up for the challenge. It may take time but you will start noticing them noticing you. Some examples would be to, as they are doing something really important or busy, just rub 'em on the shoulder or pat 'em on the tush while giving them a kiss on their head, then walk away and do something they asked you to do or something unexpected. Tell them how much you love them or complement them more often without physical contact. They assume you have an ulterior motive which is true but they don't HAVE to know that? Also, date her again but without sexual intentions. Not just go out to eat or movie. Try something different. It's frustratingly difficult but you did something to get her why not do something to keep the spice. I only say these things because they worked for me even though I still don't get it as much as I'd like, but it's better quality, more passion. Eventually, these unpredictable things will become a habit (irony. Also, try finding some other hobbies for yourself, maybe she just doesn't want to hear about sex all the time also? Just some thoughts. Peace!

Then the wife says your no good cause you cheat men got NEEDS

@cwinters I 100% agree. When our marriage was bad the sex was close to non existent and when it did happen it wasn't the greatest. Having a good emotional connection is essential to have for their benefit. I could have sex every day with a different lady and I would be just fine.

I really think ladies need that emotional connection and need to feel secure to really let the hair down and fuck. Not all ladies cause a whore is a whore whether male or female..... I happen to be a male whore that settled down to one lady.....

rustyboar wrote: Did you guys have more sex with the wife after PMMA?

I'm interested to know that also. I don't have PMMA or a wife, so can't answer myself. But I've noticed a lot of guys saying their relationships have ended post PMMA. This could suggest many guys are getting this done in the hope it can revitalize their marriages, only to discover it doesn't.

I'd guess there is an initial upturn in sexual activity for the first month or two, but it soon reverts back to the same amount of sex as before PMMA. I just don't think women are as bothered by penis size as we think and thus it can't make the difference we think it can (speaking in terms of long term relationships).

I think your right at the end of the day I think it doesn't matter what we do men will want sex more then women that's why in other countries men have more then one wife. For me I don't know what's the problem with women i hate cutting my yard if she got to get someone to do something I hate doing I would be happy but for them they hate having sex and when you cheat the make a huge fight and leave what's wrong with them lol

Age 42
Wife 33
Sex 3-5 times a week
Usually lasts between 30min-1.5hrs per session
Sex after PMMA - Same amount, she gets off more now though

@Sizemic
Stop bragging big guy! Haha

So far this thread is a great reason for not getting married.

@hoddle

Statistics show that married men have sex more often. I think having children is what killed my wife's interest.

@rustyboar

While I do not advocate cheating, I would be bald face lying if I didn't say that I think about it. Sex is vital to a man's health and testosterone levels. I NEED sex as much as possible. Can't wait to get back to good ole Tijuana. Ummm... No particular reason. Oh yeah! Round 3! Duh!

Age 39
Wife 26
0-1 times per week

Wife's libido can't touch mine. I would be at least a 1/day man minimum. It causes marital strife.

*** I should add that intercourse frequency plummeted after we had children. *** We have three.

rustyboar wrote: If you have sex only 1 a week you have sex 44 times out of 365 days a year cheating start looking like a good idea

PMMA starts to seem like a waste of money.

I got sex every day before we had kids. After my first was born my wife quit wanting to have sex all together. It stayed that way for 3-1/2 years. I realistically had sex once every other month and it was absolutely terrible. I have never been a person that would even consider cheating, but about 6 months ago I reached my breaking point and started to not only entertain the idea, but to look pretty hard. Fortunately my conscious got the best of me and I sat down my wife down for a talk. As I have said before we are brutally honest with each other so I just told her the truth. I said I am only 30 and you have denied me sex for the better part of 4 years. If something doesn't change immediately I have every intention of starting to fuck other women. I am not sure what kind of fire that lit under her ass, but I have been getting laid almost every night since. She said she had actually forgotten that she enjoyed sex, because she was in such a "mommy mode". She is also making an appointment to have her hormone levels checked to make sure that everything is normal. Either way I am happy to be getting laid again and even get BJ's when she able to have sex.

If you have sex only 1 a week you have sex 44 times out of 365 days a year cheating start looking like a good idea

Well... Not exactly. She enjoys it more but her libido can't touch mine. I want it 24/7.

Age: 24
Partners: 18 - 29

3 - 4 times per week. It's a lot easier to get more sex when you have lots of partners