TOPIC: Taking the PMMA plunge

nohidingstyle wrote: @Resoration/OP: Here's how I see some stuff...

"I am honestly curious why she even cared / didn't take it well. "

Well... from my experience most people are insecure, to varying degrees. One way some people offset their anxiety about their insecurities is to be with someone who is secure, or someone who they project to be secure. A woman in a heterosexual relationship in western culture at this time will typically be doing this to some degree. Women are put under immense scrutiny by media and culture, and thus tend to have deeper spectrums of common insecurities and social disorders stemming from them. Within this scale of behavior one can expect any event of a man modifying himself as an expression of insecurity. This explains the common image of the "true man" as the mountain man, or the "Ron Swanson." Many men exhibit moderate insecurity-caused behavior which can most easily be summed up by the "metrosexual" idea. These are expressions of insecurity that are culturally accepted, and tap into another part of psychosexual behavior I'm not prepared to discuss here. That said, altering the penis is obviously one of the most dramatic forms of expression of psychosexual insecurity a man can undergo. And that's the point, right? We are insecure about a thing thus we take physical action to remedy that. For many on here and elsewhere it seems to work but with physical risk. But there's also the risk of damaging or ruining an existing relationship because of these issues. Typically I'd imagine most of the actors in any relationship where this plays out are not fully aware of the core reasons behind their actions, though I also suspect every player realizes at least some of the reasoning else they wouldn't take action.

So... to boil it down: you get PE surgery > she doubts your sense of security > she needs security > you're out.

A man knowing these things going in to the preceding discussions around PMMA etc could help manage a successful dialogue with a heterosexual female partner that allows for everyone to come out happy.