ilovetofu wrote: New1inch if a woman laughs at your manhood, chop her up into pieces and put her in cold storage ' she's obviously not fit to be living. Just don't get caught LOL.
So you want to be more Alpha male.
What if I said you could have it all? What if you could turn yourself into a James Bond-esque man and have the life you've always wanted - a life where you always get what you want; you ooze confidence and leadership; you have an air of subtle dominance that in turn, makes other people feel like they are lucky to be graced by your presence; your peers admire you; women
BEG for your attention, even if it's just a fleeting glance; men sink into an internal jealous angst when they see you walk down the street with babes in tow, knowing you are the consummate chick magnet; you pull hot babes out of your league as effortlessly as you pull up your socks. And what if you could have all this without necessarily being buff, aggressive or obnoxious?
Sound too good to be true? Not at all, there are plenty of people who'll tell you that this is possible for any man. And for a small fee they'll reveal the 'secrets' that will unlock your potential and revolutionise your life. And should you fail then the problem lies with you, you didn't apply the secret knowledge properly; the secret advice given really works!
Okay, so maybe it's a scam and I am dreaming an unattainable dream. But surely if I just adopt the traits of these kinds of people and apply them on a daily basis'
Think of that commercial for after-shave lotion, where the actor playing an exaggerated alpha male says, 'Look at your man'now look at me. Sadly, he's not me, but he can smell like he's me!'
Search the Net and you'll find a few million references to alpha male and confidence. You can read endless advice about what you need to do to become an alpha male, including things like confidence, body language, courage, boldness, use of humour, developing your physique and fitness, being indifferent, having poise, being a mystery. Some of it is sensible practical advice and the rest is bollocks.
Some will say these traits can be developed and others will say that you're either born with it or you're not. And perhaps both are right to some degree. Look at very young kids ' some are naturally Alpha while others cower in the shadows, filled with all manner of insecurities and timidity. So yes, some are born this way, but there is also evidence that people can overcome inhibiting traits and change.
But also, of course it's important to remember that one doesn't have to be Alpha or an extrovert to be successful or happy in life. Eleanor Roosevelt, who said 'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent,' certainly was not Alpha in any sense of the word. Instead, she was an introvert who used her innate traits to make change in the world.
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New1inch: 'I just don't have the
Balls to do anything about it because of my lack of size and the fear of showing my
Dick. But this spills over into my personal life also, not just romantically. It's hard to explain but even in business I feel my
Dick size is holding me back from being the alpha and concoring what I want. I really want to get into shape but I always think, what's the point? It's not like I'll be having sex anyway because I can't please a woman or she'll laugh once she sees the ugly looking small secret I have in my pants.'
I read this paragraph of yours a few times to really let it sink in.
One of THE most practical and powerful things you can do is to stop, observe, and then change your thinking patterns. Because you'll find that you have negative thoughts that are reinforcing themselves, much like a smoker reinforces the addiction with each cigarette smoked. And remember women, as we all know, are intuitive creatures - they can spot fear and insecurity at a thousand paces. Damn!
This cannot be overstated. If you think highly of yourself and believe unquestionably in your own capabilities, men and women alike will respond to you. But let's not confuse confidence with arrogance. Confidence demonstrates quiet inner strength, surety, and reliability. Arrogance is just low self-esteem turned outwards, and perceptive people will see through the hollow, insecure man, the very antithesis of the alpha male.
New1inch, your thinking is not wrong, it has nothing to do with morality; it's just not doing you any good. IMO it's damaging, it's pulling you down and its stopping you from having what you want. It's a road block to your happiness and success. And you need to change that.
There are women out there in this world that will bang the shit out of you, women who will love you, regardless of the perceptions you have about the quality or size of your manhood. But you won't meet these women with a favourable result while ever you keep and cherish these negative, all-consuming thoughts about one particular part of your body, albeit the most private and sensitive part. Perception IS your reality. Perception is what matters. And it's your perception and the beliefs you have that are holding you back, not some absolute reality about your body.
STOP these thoughts each time you become aware that you're thinking them and replace them with something more positive, even if you don't believe it. Every day take 5 minutes to visualise yourself in the opposite situation. See yourself, like a movie in your mind, meeting a woman, engaging in conversation. See the woman laugh and be attracted to you.
And if you do this, slowly but SURELY things will change. Your mind will change, your body will change and your life will change. Let your mind and body do the talking. The way you carry yourself speaks volumes to those around you, without you even making a sound. Your posture, your hand gestures, your stance, and the way you walk'all of it sends signals to those around you about your place in the world. You want those signals to be strong and confident, not protective and small.
You CAN do it New1inch, PLEASE don't try, just do it and don't look back.
