TOPIC: Together 6 months.. No sex.. Whats up?

Mudball wrote: Hey I agree with everyone, but like I said I think you should just confront her with it directly. Put it out there , if you didn't give a crap about her, then don't , but it sounds like you do! So what do you have to lose by telling her the deal. And like I said I was also in a relationship that was lacking on the sex side and do not stay with her if she is not committed to you fully!! You seem like a great guy, with a good ! No matter what you do or how you do it .... You deserve better! Good luck! It is always easier for someone out side to tell you what to do...it is a meat grinder when you care for someone and they hurt you!!

I completely agree with you. Its easier said than done. I do remember bringing it up in a text. She told me it was good for the relationship. I dont know maybe she want to be on a deeper level with me or not. Like I said in my first post she's been with a LOT of guys and her herself has a shaky past. I know she's been raped a few times by people she knew and boyfriends. Mainly all her relationships were based around sex. Im trying to convince myself that maybe she's doing this because she really likes me and want to try something different. I dont know.. This is rough for me. Believe it or not its not that bad. The reason im upset about it because it depletes my manhood and make me think maybe im not good enough. thats what bothers me the most, not me not getting pussy.

This is a tough one, ultimately it is your decision to stay or go. But people do change, maybe she feels bad about how she lived her life before, maybe she loves you for you( not your Cock). She has shown you signs that she is into you, but speaking from a guy that my first wife started to dish out sex when an only when she wanted it ( weeks in between) it sucks! I would talk to her about your frustrations and if she can't see what it is doing to you or willing to help fix it.... Move on... If she is willing to work on it... Problem solved !!! Good luck!!

There is no way that she into you. Save your self months of waiting and wasting your life. If it is your penis size and she is a size queen, then you know what to do...You can not compete with those other guys who, according to you, were losers but got sex any time they wanted? what does that tell you?

She is not into you sexually nor emotionally. The least she can do, if she REALLY loves you, is to let you have sex with her even if she did not like it, a few times a month minimum.

Move on ASAP and find some one else "after" you have completely healed emotionally from your present condition.Meanwhile, There are escort service that will relieve your stress till you find your path...

Good luck and dump her ASS.....

This is my honest opinion...

I don't know you, I'm not a licensed therapist, and I would not advise you to take any advice from anyone, least of all me. That said, if it was me, I would get the hell out of dodge. Love is not that complicated, and women with problems and worse, inconsistencies in the way they talk and behave, are a one way ticket to a busted . I look for girls who like having sex WITH ME. Life is short, sex is like food, and you would never choose to be with someone who constantly left you starving. I have never seen a situation like what you're describing get better. I'm sorry to say it, but I've been in a shit ton of relationships and that's what I've seen. As everyone who has read my thread knows, I have been wrong about women, and things can always go wrong, but that just sounds like bad news to me.

We spend all our lives trying to give people the benefit of the doubt, telling ourselves that our gut instincts are wrong and we shouldn't rush to judge. You ever wonder why those gut reactions are there? That is our true voice telling us something is wrong.

The worst move I made in my life was to marry a woman who was not into sex. My sex life was miserable for 12 years.
It made my whole life miserable. Of course, I am...obsessed. But, the best move I made was to get a divorce. Then I had lots of sex with girls, until I found a girl who is as much obsessed as I am. Sex plays an incredible role in our life and it makes the bond between us stronger everyday.

I totally agree with Skeptical One (both posts). Baseline : if your girl cannot see/understand how frustrated you are over this, she is simply not listening to you, because she is not caring.

Some women are very good at disguising their selfishness into any behaviour they see fit. Ultimately, they are just selfish. Thinking about my ex wife I thought I loved her, and she always told me she loved me. She never cheated on me. But it was not love. She needed someone to manipulate, and she was good at it. She also liked the security I provided. But she took away 12 years of my life because that relationship was almost like jail. Frustrating, without freedom and without a future.

My advice : if you do not love her, run away. If you really do love her, tell her what is in your mind. Either she will understand you and do everything she can to make you feel better, or she won't. In that case, run away. Some women do not deserve to be loved by good fellas.

After further thought and the additional responses, I'm going to have to agree. There seems to be one too many red flags (and those are just the ones you are willing to share with us) to make it worthwhile in the long run... I'd consider finding someone who doesn't "leave you starving" as DWD put it.

Hey I agree with everyone, but like I said I think you should just confront her with it directly. Put it out there , if you didn't give a crap about her, then don't , but it sounds like you do! So what do you have to lose by telling her the deal. And like I said I was also in a relationship that was lacking on the sex side and do not stay with her if she is not committed to you fully!! You seem like a great guy, with a good ! No matter what you do or how you do it .... You deserve better! Good luck! It is always easier for someone out side to tell you what to do...it is a meat grinder when you care for someone and they hurt you!!

No, we are men because of our achievements in life, nothing to do with women. If you we have a great woman to appreciate what we do, then we will feel even better about ourselves of course. Women do not make men, men make men who they are...My opinion, yours will certainly vary....

Just remember, ALL women truly respect a strong secure man, they may not admit it, but they will always feel it..

We make ourselves, but we are still nothing until a woman designates her as her man, the one she adores. The second step cannot be achieved without the first.
This is a men's world, but it would be nothing without a woman.

The idea is in that a real man is a provider and a protector, but he is nothing if there is no one to protect and provide for. In that case, the man is not a man, he is just a creature with a stone axe and a bag full of mammoth meat.

This is what I refer to when I say the woman defines us. Our true nature, the protector, can be achieved only in presence of the protected, therefore the protected defines the protector. Missing that part is missing the essence of the symbiotic, yin-yangesque nature of being a full human.

I have had various Russian girlfriends and they know what to expect from a man, without the BS from the west, feminism etc.
And these women all made me more masculine that I was before because it was what they expected from a man, and seeing how big I was in their eyes made me realize that I was bigger than I thought. They helped me embrace my true nature.

What happened Ffs? These posts mess me up. I'm like a sad old woman watching my stories. I need to know!!

Im so fucking confused right now. She actually broke up with me.. I begged her not to do it. But she said to just be friends. This was yesterday. Today i didnt contact her once. All contact was from her. Then jus now she called me. I texted her that im at the movies and ill call her when i get home. " I WAS LYING". SHE FLIPPED THE FUCK OUT!!. I dont know what game she is playing. I begged like a bitch for her to give me a chance. she would not go for it. So Today i took my Facebook page off private, changed my profile pic after 8 months of the same old picture.. AND... i took at least 30-45 minutes to respond back to her texts.. I guess she thought i was gonna sit around and pout " I DID KINDA"... But I aint let her see me break.. I bought a course on ''how to win your ex girlfriend back'' immediately after we broke up.. I know its crazy but i really love this girl and i know i was apart of the reason of her unattraction for me.. BUT BOY!!! This shit WORKS!!! and its only been 24 hours.. we're not Facebook friends but she controls her moms FB page so i know she saw the changes on my page.. I added a few hotties also.. But I KNOW for a fact now that shes not over me and I just lost the power and my dominance in the relationship and thats what turned her off.

Don't lie, don't do anything extra, just move on! If you play these games and get her to want you back for what? You gave her everything () she took advantage of it and violated your trust! Make her history!!!! Put your energy into a different girl!! That would be the best in her face anyways, new hotty that is into you. I know you love her but the games you are playing on her now are exactly what she was doing to you and why you were just being drug around by your balls. !!!! You seem to be to good of a guy to put up with this bullshit!!! I can't say it enough , no games no nothing, move on and the best way to get the emotions to move on is go get a new women! Good luck, sorry you are going through this but, you are not the only guy! Just be glad you were not married to her and had kids! You got off easy!! Now get out and find a great girl!! I want a new thread of your new relationship and can't believe you wasted 6 months on this women!!! Go get em!!!!

SOOOOoo we broke up. worst day of my life

New1Inch, sorry to here your break-up was painful but pleased for you to have moved forward.

I didn't want to mention this while you were still with her but my feeling is she may have been getting the sex somewhere else.

I make a point of stating it now so you aren't tempted to move backwards and get back together.

I agree with DWD.

How much longer you willing to hang in there before discovering if things will change? If its another 18mths for example, what if your discovery is she will not change?

One of my best mates got married to a girl also not into sex. To cut a long story short, he was with her for 5 years and they did not have sex once the entire 5-year marriage, not once! He was holding out for change that never came... given a second-chance he'd have bailed much earlier.

If she won't even talk about it, then the path to change is even more clouded.