TOPIC: Paying for sex

@medilook: I relate. Here's my story:At age 21, my hairline was noticeably receding and it severely messed up my confidence (which was not very strong to begin with). It really pissed me off, and by age 24 I decided to take matters into my own hands: I told my hair you can't quit, you're fired. I began consistently shaving my head (not bicking it, just using electric clippers) at least once a month, and gradually found my self-image transforming. I no longer felt like I had anything to hide, and was bravely facing the world with my purposefully-shaved head. Once I no longer yearned for that full head of hair and accepted myself as a shaved badass, I began to like what I saw when I looked in the mirror. I developed more a firm self-belief in my attractiveness sans hair, and ultimately began yielding better results in the dating scene. My progression went as follows (it ain't pretty):Sporadically visiting call girls and a steady diet of masturbation to porn >>Drunken one-nighters with fat and/or unattractive women >> FWB deals with not fat/unattractive women albeit with low self-esteems >> FWB deals with attractive/hot women with low self-esteems (including several that were insane and one that was a stalker) >> 1-2 month relationships with decent, attractive women that fizzled out because of my commitment issues >> My first marriage (which lasted 8 years, and as it was ending I resumed my diet of call girls and masturbation to porn) >> My second marriage (which has thus far gone swimmingly). All of this I credit to shaving my ratty, thinning hair off of my beautiful bald white head. Confidence aside, there are many women who like bald men. You hear such women toss around the names of bald actors they think are hot like Bruce Willis and John Malkovich. Then you have the general population of women who are just turned on by confidence. It's your weakened confidence that's holding you back, not your hair. Free yourself and get rid of that hair. Get used to your new badass self, hit the dating scene, get laid, build up your confidence and then thank me later.

I think its interesting that in the gay scene, sex is so available and easy, often even with people out of your league that there isn't that much need for paying. Unless its really old guys.

The other big thing is that most gay porn stars escort, and you can hire them out directly on websites like RentBoy. I'm sure there'd be a million straight guys willing to pay $350+ to sleep with their favorite female porn star, and that concepts basically available in the gay community.

They're definitely not street hookers. I need to get my act together and stop going these places but I already have the urge to go agains today!!

Yes, you need to think more highly about yourself then to sleep with prostitutes.


Get out there and enjoy the chase. I'll never pay for pussy.....my wife might disagree though.

I've paid for sex before. I don't have a problem with it, but it just doesn't really work for me. I can understand how people could become addicted to it, but in my case I found paying for it damaged my ego to the point I couldn't really enjoy the experience much. I did it 2 or 3 times and the girls were always attractive and surprisingly good company just to hang out with, but ultimately I didn't find it sufficiently rewarding. I don't regret it though and the few times I've done it have enriched my life to some extent, as they are experiences I wont forget. They weren't good sexually, but I enjoy thinking back about the whole process involved in researching and meeting these girls. It was actually lots of fun and I experienced a constant state of nervous excitement from the moment I made the call, to the moment they left. In fact that feeling is worth paying for alone.

If it wasn't for my penis issues I doubt I would have ever even considered seeing an escort, so you could say it's one of the few good things that came out of my penis related problems. Basically I've tried it, didn't enjoy the sexual side much, but I'm glad to have had the experience and think most guys would enjoy it. I caution that when I say "most guys would enjoy it", I mean in the right circumstance and certainly am not suggesting anyone jump in their car and rush off the street corner to pick up some crack whore!

Haven't been able to do that yet

Thehulk - I would chase girls, but when your 28 and have aggressive hair loss with a big bald spot in the back of your head, your confidence is shiit. Whenever I'm in public, I always wear a hat. I definitely don't like the way I look bald. I haven't gotten used to it.

All These girls are Asian, and I would say they are average to a little above average, but Im attracted to Asian women. I like the fact that everytime I go, its a different girl, so Its never the same old same old. I heard that being in a relationship, sEx can get mundane and boring. Although a relationship is more then just about having sex.

I do want to be in a relationship, but I just don't have the confidence in my looks to go out and pursue or even online dating. Fuckking hairloss is a bitchh!

Thanks for the positive advice Boston. I do appreciate it. Hopefully one day I'll be confident enough to go out with my shaved head and without a hat and not be so self concious everyone is looking at my big balding head in the back. I'm still on propecia hoping my side effects don't get worse and eventually regrow a good amount of hair. If propecia doesn't work I guess I'll have to get used to the shaved look.

There is nothing wrong paying for sex, I think the guys making negative comments have not seen how stunning female escorts are. Most look like super models with big busts and butts. There is a big difference between a street prostitute and escorts. Most escorts use condoms during oral and sex, plus are regularly tested. Only down side is you have to pay for it, but most have techniques that most women will never learn in a life time. Each to their own!

They are there to fulfil a fantasy some guys can never have fulfilled in real life, some guys even if they are super good looking, do it for the power and convenience. Some guys see it as a guaranteed way of getting sex for your money. You can take a girl out for dinner, buy drinks e.t.c and not see her again. Plus it no strings attached, which is helpful for guy who are married and don't get sex from their wives.

It's important you look after you sexual health, you can't blame it on others, so reading up on STD'S and learning how to prevent catching them, can mean never catching anything even if you sleep with the whole village.

Sorry, not trying to sidetrack the conversation too much.

But, John Malkovich, really?

Remember this next time you think you are suffering from loss of libido due to Propecia!

Shave it all off, bald is cool!!!

I believe most if not all men pay for sex, directly or indirectly. I do not mean to insult any one here, but in MOST cases, the man pays...

The problem of paying for sex is the cost as you say. But again, you are not attached to them and you are free to do as you please any time. There are pros and cons to everything..

I do not know if you have a problem. You say the girls are beautiful. Can you get the same beauties without paying for them directly?

Uhm no Hulk, I just live in the real world... and it has been the real world since nearly the beginning of man kind, that's why it the worlds oldest profession. I am atheist so don't have the same qualms as religious people and being european, we are more open minded to sex.

I think that's often a myth. I think its usually a your mileage may vary situation where theyll make the rule if you're gross haha. If a client wanted to kiss, why wouldnt they just charge more money? Its strange to draw the line there, especially without a safety concern.